4 Rules to Live By

This is all you need to practice in order to find your way... to your self, love, your soul mate, and your destiny.

These are also known as the 4 rules of negotiation or peace making, and can be applied to ANY relationship or situation to bring about the highest good for all concerned, ALWAYS.

1. Be present

2. Listen

3. Tell the truth

4. Release attachment to the outcome

Explanation:

1. To be present you must show up. You must be willing to participate in the solution, which means be WILLING to HEAR the other person.

2. To listen is to HEAR what is being said. If you are too busy thinking about what you think you need to say next, in order to make things go your way, you are not present or listening... instead you are in your own head, listening to your own thoughts.

3. To tell the truth is to communicate how you REALLY feel at a heart (soul) level, regardless of what may or may not happen. The truth will set you free.

4. If you are attached to the outcome, you will not be able to do 1, 2, or 3.   Attachment is selfishness, not love.  Love is acceptance and allowance... for the other person to be who they really are, and to do what they feel is right for them at a heart level.  After all, isn't that what you want from someone else in return, the freedom to be who you REALLY are, to be accepted unconditionally? You must GIVE that which you wish to receive. Don't you want someone to be present, to listen, to tell you the truth no matter what, and to accept your decision even if it's not what they want from you?